Evocateur

#19 Avoiding the anti-aging mind games: embracing aging while not succumbing to it

The negative aging imagination is at play in the culture. When we develop “reflexive dread” of aging, a phrase from Ashton Applewhite, we dread and revile the thought of getting older in any way. This dread is a reaction to an aging meta messages our culture indulges in aplenty—“whatever you do, don’t start aging!! It’s all downhill.” As if we had a choice, in spite of what the ads say. Granted we don’t want to[…]

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What Do You Know In the Afternoon of Life?

In a class on self-expression for “The Afternoon of Life” held at the Jung Center in Houston, I was asked to write quickly before I did any censoring, on what I know. Here is what came out of me. What do you know?  Remember, write fast. What I know, and want to pass on John P. Schuster I know love rules Grace matters Pain subsides Anxiety teaches Anger cleanses Hugs heal Laughter lightens Smiles welcome[…]

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Wisdom from a Master

Peter Block’s insights into our work and lives is so precious in this interview of a few months ago at the Hudson Institute’s annual meeting. https://hudsoninstitute.egnyte.com/dl/4eajYdLL0F?utm_source=CHIC+Newsletter+June+2016&utm_campaign=Summer+Newsletter&utm_medium=email

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Frederic Hudson: The Man Who Lived and Breathed Adult Learning

Self Renewal for all of Life’s Stages from one of the progenitors of the field of coaching (I have one more post coming on this, my comments at his memorial…they will come some day. And if you want to see one more angle on his life I posted something recently on Psychology Today about him.) “The quality of your life is determined by…” There may be several good ways to finish the above sentence, such[…]

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Modern Warfare Three: cyber war games may not be all bad

Like many a loving grandparent, I bought Modern Warfare 3 (MW3) for my grandson. This was a must-buy for this well-rounded 13 year old. MW3 sold $775 million in five days, you most likely heard, making it a mega event.  It is well over a billion in sales now. What can we make of this? How can we put our arms around this amazing commercial success for a war game? For me, my relationship to[…]

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Fight the battle to be you

My dear friend Jeanne Coyle, up in Portland Oregon, where I arrived yesterday for some coaching work, had a very self-made, un-culturally compressed husband, Jim. At his funeral a few years back she read this e. e. cummings quote, one that is at the root of my thinking on differentiating through harvesting our history: “To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing it’s best to make you everybody else, means to fight[…]

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